Manners Matter in Online Dating - Honesty and Politeness Are Keys to Success
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I have noticed it is of extreme importance in the dating world to have both honesty and politeness. For some it is pretty easy, especially in the online world, to fudge a little bit about yourself; whether it be your age, your marital status, your favorite activities or even your income. It is also easy to lack in the politeness arena by just blowing someone off or make a snide comment. Keep in mind that you attract what you put out there. The more honest and polite you can be with yourself and others, you will find there are many more honest and polite people on dating sites - and you are much more likely to find the person of your dreams much quicker!
One way to incorporate both honesty and politeness is to respond to everyone who e-mails you. Even if it is a short note telling them you are not interested. They took the time to contact you, take that as a compliment and then send a kind "thank you, but I am not interested." It shows respect and a definitive answer to their question. I even challenge you to actually look at their profile and write a specific line about something they mention in their profile. This shows that you really did take the time (even if it was 2 minutes) to evaluate them.
I have found through personal experience, this doesn't always work out quite as planned. Since my heart was in the right place, I came out of the situation with just a touch of embarrassment. I received several e-mails that needed a reply. All were similar, but I did want to include something personal in each one to show that I had taken the time to actually look at their profile. In doing so I sent a reply to Steve that started with "Dear Frank." Steve sent me a reply e-mail and thanked me for letting him know I wasn't interested by wanted to know why I addressed it to Frank. I have to say first of all, I was embarrassed that I called the guy the wrong name, but I was also very thankful that he politely asked me what that was all about versus writing a "nasty gram" e-mail.
In the dating world, you will find many more "non-matches" than "matches." By choosing to be honest and polite with all of the people on these sites, I can't guarantee that they will act the same way in return. However, you will be sending out the energy of being an honest and polite person, and you will attract back the type of energy you send out.
"Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use."-Emily Post
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Tracy Fagan has invested her efforts in making the dating journey a fun, interesting and fruitful experience. To find many more tips and resources to make dating and relationships fun and meaningful, visit http://www.datingsurvivalinfo.com
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